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How To Deal With Grief
How does grief differ from depression?
Depression is more than a feeling of grief after losing someone or something you love. Clinical depression is a whole body disorder. It can take over the way you think and feel.
Symptoms of depression include:
- A sad, anxious, or "empty" mood that won't go away;
- Loss of interest in what you used to enjoy;
- Low energy, fatigue, feeling "slowed down;"
- Changes in sleep patterns;
- Loss of appetite, weight loss, or weight gain;
- Trouble concentrating, remembering, or making decisions;
- Feeling hopeless or gloomy;
- Feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless;
- Thoughts of death or suicide or a suicide attempt; and
- Recurring aches and pains that don't respond to treatment.
How will I know when I'm done grieving?
Every person who experiences a death or other loss must complete a four-step grieving process:
(1) Accept the loss;
(2) Work through and feel the physical and emotional pain of grief;
(3) Adjust to living in a world without the person or item lost; and
(4) Move on with life.
The grieving process is over only when a person completes the four steps.
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Grief Support Groups
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Memorials To Loved Ones
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The Funeral Rule Provides Consumer Protection
- You have the right to choose the funeral goods and services you want (with some
- The funeral provider must state this right in writing on the general price list.
- If state or local law requires you to buy any particular item, the funeral provider must
disclose it on the price list, with a reference to the specific law.
- The funeral provider may not refuse, or charge a fee, to handle a casket you bought
- A funeral provider that offers cremations must make alternative containers available.
When a loved one dies, grieving family members and
friends often are confronted with dozens of decisions about the funeral - all of which
must be made quickly and often under great emotional duress. What kind of funeral should
it be? What funeral provider should you use? Should you bury or cremate the body, or
donate it to science? What are you legally required to buy? What other arrangements should
you plan? And, as callous as it may sound, how much is it all going to cost?
Funerals rank among the most expensive purchases many consumers will ever make. A
traditional funeral, including a casket and vault, costs about $6,000, although
"extras" like flowers, obituary notices, acknowledgment cards or limousines can
add thousands of dollars to the bottom line. Many funerals run well over $10,000. Many people feel uncomfortable comparing prices or
negotiating over the details and cost of a funeral. Compounding this
discomfort is the fact that some people "overspend" on a funeral or burial
because they think of it as a reflection of their feelings for the deceased.
Planning For A Funeral
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Shop around in advance. Compare prices from at least
two funeral homes. Remember that you can supply your own casket or urn.
Ask for a price list. The law requires funeral homes to
give you written price lists for products and services.
Resist pressure to buy goods and services you don't
really want or need.
Avoid emotional overspending. It's not necessary to
have the fanciest casket or the most elaborate funeral to properly honor a loved one.
Recognize your rights. Laws regarding funerals and
burials vary from state to state. It's a smart move to know which goods or services the
law requires you to purchase and which are optional.
Apply the same smart shopping techniques you use for
other major purchases. You can cut costs by limiting the viewing to one day or one hour
before the funeral, and by dressing your loved one in a favorite outfit instead of costly
Plan ahead. It allows you to comparison shop without
time constraints, creates an opportunity for family discussion, and lifts some of the
burden from your family.
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